Self-care has become an unstoppable force in society, and it's safe to say that our generation has embraced the idea of “treating yo' self!” From skin care routines to daily exercise to book clubs, self-care has become a highly desired way to optimize positive personal wellness.
Although we can easily implement normative self-care practices into our way of life, it's possible that we can still endure internal struggles.
I've personally used my self-care regimen to deal with many surface-level issues, but I still feel empty inside. Addressing internal emptiness involves that self-actualization and personal awareness that requires confrontation. Ultimately, that have a problem with conflict is where most of us falter on the fundamental level.
Many cultures view confrontation like a form of instigation and aggression, and therefore vehemently discourage it. Society often instills confrontation as a negative value, especially in our first moments of active consciousness. Those cultural norms have formulated a worldview centered around avoiding issues, people, and perspectives that challenge our preconceived notions of both the world around us and your own constructs.
But, what happens when we face the dilemma of confronting ourselves? When your biggest obstacle is your own inner demons, how do you practice self-care?
It begins with a simple try looking in the mirror.
Through my own battles with my own demons, I learned that facing yourself in the mirror is a difficult feat.The initial step in this form of self-care is to look yourself in the eye and state your harmful behaviors. Then, you must find the cause of these negative behaviors. Self-blame is detrimental for your progress, but acknowledging your demons can become your greatest tool.
Coming to terms with trauma and comprehending the reasoning behind specific thoughts or actions provides you with a deeper understanding of your individual self. Understanding who you truly are and how your past has affected you is a major leap towards self-improvement and self-love.
Face masks, exercise, and books are wonderful items to add to your self-improvement regime. If you never face the root issues, though, can you ever truly heal?
The first step towards change is often the hardest, but it is more than worth the effort. If you confront your own demons, nothing will stop you from becoming the best version of yourself. We are our own worst enemies, but I urge you to empower yourself. Confront your past, recognize your shortcomings, and start to understand your perceptions. When you take these steps towards self-improvement, you'll become the person you've always aspired to be.
