After I had a child, I often developed relationships with my friends’ mothers rather than with my peers. After i went back to college in my late twenties, however, I developed friendships with peers in similar circumstances. My relationships, both platonic and romantic, have changed significantly, plus some have ended. A few of those times, I've had to “break up” with a friend, and ending those friendships hurt probably the most. 

In my late twenties, I developed an online friendship with another mom. I was the very best of friends. I defended her through her struggles and celebrated her victories together with her. However, I began to notice that lots of her struggles weren't ordinary issues; these were the result of terrible life choices. 

I decided to speak with her about my feelings towards our friendship. I informed her that I loved her, but I couldn't support her life choices anymore. Then, Used to do the “mature” thing. I ghosted my friend. It didn't end well, to say the very least. 

Now, I take responsibility for ending that friendship. In hindsight, I possibly could have shown significantly more compassion and respect for my friend. But when you're so angry with your friend, how do you “break up” with them? Listed here are six signs that you should end your friendship permanently:

1. You disagree all the time.

It's normal to occasionally have disagreements with your friend. But if you seem to always fight together with your friend, it might be time to peacefully try taking some space from them. 

2. Your friendship feels toxic.

It's difficult to admit that a friendship is toxic, but try to drown out the good memories and sit with your emotions instead. Does this person give you a feeling of toxicity? If so, you're ready to let go.

3. Your friendship is one-sided.

Does your friend invest just as much time and energy into the friendship as you do? If they don't, then it's not a friendship that's worth keeping. 

4. Your “friend” disappears when you're struggling.

Does your friend support you when you're struggling, or could they be mysteriously absent from your life? In case your friend ghosts you when you're at your worst, you should discontinue the friendship.

5. Your values no more align.

We live in a political time, and it is easy for friendships to end because of diverging views. If your friend doesn't support issues that you're passionate about, you may want to consider whether your friendship is worth saving. 

6. Your friend doesn't pass the “dealbreaker test.”

If you've dealbreakers in your friendship that your friend can't respect, it may be time to say goodbye. Your dealbreakers can include passive racism or homophobia, drug abuse, or “emotional vampirism.” Some people might be open to changing their behavior, but if they aren't, do you really need that friend in your lifetime right now? 

All of us have drifted aside from friends because of distance, time, or lack of interest, but breaking off a friendship is among the hardest things to do. If you're considering “breaking up” having a friend, write them instructions, call them, or meet up with these to tell them why you want to go your separate ways. Stay civil, and make certain not to say anything hurtful that could end your friendship on bad terms. If you choose to “break up” with your friend, taking these simple steps will leave you far more pleased with the end of your friendship.