Sometimes in life, you just need to save yourself. The sad part about life is that not everyone is going to be in your corner. Not everyone is going to be picking you support and trying to motivate you to complete better. Not everyone is going to want to see you succeed. Unfortunately, there are going to be people in your life that does not only want to see you fail, however they will thrive on it.
Those are the people we normally overlook the negative with. The people that people like to make excuses for because they do not know any better. The people that people apologize for, believing that they are misunderstood, creatures. The people that we give second and third chances to, just to prove to us yet again that they'll never change. They most certainly will make you think that they have, providing you with a list of ways on how they have changed and how they are going to do better this time around, but that means nothing with no history of proof.
And what has a brief history of these people shown you? They are unreliable. They are needy. They're selfish. They are unwilling to see life in a different perspective, other than their very own. They always think that most people are out to get them. They always get their way, because it is just easier to give them what they want rather than to need to battle with them over it. They always manage to manipulate the situation in their favor and you're simply always too late to realize it. It's not until that point where you are mentally and emotionally drained that you simply find yourself questioning how you let it go on for so long.
These aren't the people we need in our lives. Although it may seem like you are being selfish by distancing yourself from someone who seems like they need you, you're actually doing yourself a favor. They may necessarily want you around, but it is only so that they can walk on you so they can raise themselves up. They need you because they need to destroy you to allow them to “help” you and ultimately feel better about themselves. For them, you are their drug that can help them feel better.
That is not friendship. That is not a relationship. That is not family. The people that you need in your life do not need an endless quantity of chances to prove they are not likely to screw your emotions over. The people that you need in your life are the ones that collect you when your second chance people visit the waste side yet again. The people that you need in your life are the ones that keep you motivated to do better, be better, without looking for something in return. The people you'll need in your life are the ones that recognize who these soul sucking people are and try to save you from them before it's too late.
Now is the time in our lives where you should be selective with who we have by our side. It is not about the number of people we have alongside us, but those who truly could be depended on. Even if that means there's only a select few who are good enough for that role, that is much better than those that you have to question their role. Sometimes you have to remember that you have to do things for your own well being before you can do something for someone else. And always keep in mind, sometimes you have to distance you to ultimately save yourself.
